When Your Baby Suddenly Refuses the Bottle

A baby who once took a bottle comfortably may suddenly turn away, cry when feeding begins, take only small amounts, or feed when drowsy but resist when fully alert. Bottle refusal can feel worrying and deeply personal, particularly when every feed becomes something to anticipate rather than enjoy.

It is not a reflection of how well a caregiver is caring for their baby. Bottle refusal is a recognised feeding experience, but it is not necessarily a diagnosis in itself. Sometimes there is an obvious reason for the change; sometimes several small factors come together.

Research specifically about bottle refusal is surprisingly limited. Two UK studies by Maxwell, Fleming and Porcellato explored the experiences of breastfed babies refusing bottles and found a complex picture involving individual babies, feeding experiences and wider circumstances (Maxwell et al., 2020; Maxwell, Fleming and Porcellato, 2023).

What does bottle feeding refusal mean?

Bottle refusal is generally used to describe a baby who initially or continuously refuses to accept milk from a bottle. The term has been used particularly in research involving breastfed babies, although families may use it more broadly when a baby who previously accepted a bottle begins refusing it (Maxwell et al., 2020).

You might notice that your baby:

• refuses the bottle altogether

• takes only a small amount before stopping

• sucks a few times and then turns away

• cries when the bottle is offered

• pushes the teat away

• becomes distressed as soon as feeding begins

• feeds more readily when sleepy or just waking

• accepts the bottle from one caregiver but not another

• accepts a bottle in one environment but refuses it somewhere else.

A refusal does not necessarily mean that your baby has developed an aversion in the clinical sense. It may be a temporary response to illness, discomfort, developmental change, a change in routine or the way the feed is being offered.

The word "refusal" can also make the situation sound more straightforward than it really is. A baby may be communicating that something about the feeding experience is difficult rather than simply deciding that they do not want a bottle.

Research into bottle refusal suggests that babies are individuals and that several physical, psychological, biological and social factors may contribute (Maxwell, Fleming and Porcellato, 2023).

As with all infant feeding concerns, anatomy provides information; function provides context.

When does bottle refusal need prompt medical review?

A sudden reduction in feeding can sometimes be associated with illness or another medical problem, so it is important not to assume that every feeding refusal is behavioural.

Seek prompt medical advice if your baby is taking substantially less milk than usual, has significantly fewer wet nappies, is unusually sleepy or difficult to rouse, is not maintaining expected growth, or you are concerned that they are becoming dehydrated or unwell.

Urgent medical assessment is needed if your baby has breathing difficulty, turns blue, grey or unusually pale, becomes difficult to rouse, or has other significant changes in their normal level of consciousness.

Seek urgent advice if there is green or yellow-green vomit, blood in vomit, blood in the stool, repeated forceful vomiting, or other significant symptoms. NICE identifies these as potential red flags requiring clinical assessment rather than assuming that symptoms are simply reflux (NICE, 2015).

If your baby is under 3 months old and has a temperature of 38°C or higher, seek urgent medical advice.

These signs do not mean that your baby has bottle aversion. They may indicate an illness or another condition that needs assessment.

If there are no urgent concerns but bottle feeding has consistently become difficult, it is still reasonable to ask for support. Earlier assessment can help identify whether there is a health, feeding or practical issue contributing to the difficulty.

Looking at the whole feeding picture

A detailed feeding history is often more informative than looking at one difficult feed in isolation.

It can be helpful to think about:

• When did the change begin?

• Was your baby previously taking the bottle comfortably?

• Does the difficulty happen with every feed or only at particular times?

• Is your baby more willing to feed when sleepy or just waking?

• Does the refusal happen with every caregiver?

• Does it happen with breast milk, formula or both?

• Has anything changed recently?

• Has your baby been unwell or congested?

• Has there been a change in bowel movements or constipation?

• Is your baby teething?

• Has there been a change in the bottle, teat or flow?

• Is your baby coughing, spluttering, gulping or losing milk during feeds?

• Are there concerns about weight gain or wet nappies?

It can also be useful to think about what happened around the time the refusal began.

Sometimes a baby has experienced an uncomfortable or frightening feed, such as coughing, choking, vomiting, significant reflux-like discomfort or difficulty coordinating the feed. It is not possible to know exactly what an individual baby remembers or associates with a previous experience, but a difficult feeding experience may be followed by increased resistance at subsequent feeds.

Physical discomfort can also affect feeding. Nasal congestion, illness, constipation, teething discomfort, reflux symptoms or other health concerns can all change how a baby approaches a feed.

NICE specifically advises against assuming that unexplained feeding difficulties such as refusing feeds, gagging or choking are caused by reflux when overt regurgitation is not present (NICE, 2015). Looking at the wider picture is therefore important.

Feeding difficulties can involve interacting medical, nutritional, feeding-skill and psychosocial factors, which is why a broader assessment can be more useful than looking for one isolated explanation (Goday et al., 2019).

Could oral function be contributing?

Oral function can be relevant to bottle feeding, particularly where there are several signs occurring together.

You might notice:

• difficulty maintaining a consistent seal

• frequent milk loss from the mouth

• clicking or noisy feeding

• difficulty coordinating sucking, swallowing and breathing

• repeated coughing or spluttering

• very prolonged feeds

• marked fatigue during feeds

• frequent stopping and starting

• difficulty managing the flow of milk.

However, none of these signs identifies a single cause.

Teat shape and flow, positioning, feeding pace, nasal congestion, illness, developmental maturity, respiratory factors and individual feeding coordination can all influence bottle feeding.

A visible lingual frenulum or tongue-tie does not, by itself, explain bottle refusal. Some babies with a tongue-tie feed effectively, while bottle feeding difficulties can occur for many reasons unrelated to tongue-tie.

If you are concerned about oral function, it is more useful to consider what is happening during the feed than to make assumptions from the appearance of the mouth alone.

You may find A Guide to Understanding Your Baby's Oral Function helpful when thinking about the wider feeding picture.

Things you can try

If your baby is otherwise well and there are no concerns about hydration, growth or feeding safety, there are several gentle things you can experiment with.

The aim is not to find a way to make your baby take the bottle despite their cues. Instead, you are looking for circumstances in which feeding feels easier for your baby.

Try changing the position

Some babies feed more comfortably in one position than another.

You could try a slightly different angle or a more upright, well-supported position while keeping your baby's face visible and airway clear.

Position can affect how the teat sits in the mouth and how quickly milk reaches your baby. Responsive bottle feeding guidance recommends a semi-upright position and keeping the bottle relatively horizontal so that milk does not simply flow into the mouth continuously (NHS, n.d.).

For more information about responsive and paced bottle feeding, see Paced Bottle Feeding.

Think about the feeding environment

Some babies become very distracted when they are more alert. Others feed better when there is some gentle movement, familiar conversation or another familiar sensory distraction.

You could try:

• a quieter room

• a darker or less visually stimulating environment

• gentle background noise

• talking softly to your baby

• feeding somewhere familiar

• changing the amount of visual stimulation around your baby.

There is no single environment that works for every baby. Notice whether a particular environment helps your baby settle or appears to overwhelm them.

Distraction should not be used to override clear feeding cues or to encourage a baby to continue when they are trying to stop.

Try a different feeding caregiver

Some babies who resist the bottle from one caregiver will accept it from somebody else.

This does not mean that your baby does not want to feed with their usual caregiver. A familiar caregiver may be associated with breastfeeding, previous feeding attempts or the expectation of a particular type of feed.

Another familiar caregiver may be able to offer the bottle without the same expectations surrounding the feed.

The aim should still be a calm, responsive experience rather than repeatedly testing whether the baby will accept the bottle.

Consider whether the teat feels different

The sensory experience of the teat may matter to an individual baby.

Teats vary in:

• shape

• size

• softness

• texture

• flexibility

• material

• flow rate.

Some families find that their baby responds differently to a change in teat material, such as moving between silicone and latex, although there is no evidence that one material is generally better for babies.

If you are experimenting with a different teat, it can be useful to change one thing at a time so that you can tell what, if anything, appears to make a difference.

Think about sucking before the feed

Some babies seem to settle through sucking before they are ready to take milk.

If your baby already uses a dummy, you could try allowing some non-feeding sucking before offering the bottle. Some babies may also settle by sucking on a clean finger for a short time.

The aim is not to trick your baby into taking the bottle. If your baby is clearly refusing or becoming increasingly distressed, stop and try again later.

Try gentle movement

Some babies settle more readily with gentle movement.

If your baby is securely held in your arms and positioned safely for feeding, you might find that gentle walking or rocking helps them become calmer.

If you are walking while offering the bottle, keep your baby securely supported and maintain a safe feeding position. Do not feed while your baby is in a sling or carrier.

Consider whether wind is contributing

Trapped air may make some babies uncomfortable during or after feeds.

You do not need to make every baby burp after every feed. Some babies need very little winding, while others appear more comfortable after releasing trapped air.

If your baby becomes unsettled, pulls away, squirms or repeatedly stops and starts, you could pause the feed and give them an opportunity to wind before offering more milk.

For more ideas, see How to Wind a Baby After a Feed.

Think about pain and discomfort

Teething, illness, a sore mouth, nasal congestion, constipation, reflux symptoms or another source of discomfort can all change how a baby approaches feeding.

Look at what is happening outside the feed as well as during it.

You might notice:

• increased chewing or drooling

• changes in bowel movements

• constipation

• nasal congestion

• unsettled behaviour when lying down

• signs of illness

• changes in wet nappies

• increased regurgitation or vomiting.

If discomfort appears to be contributing to the feeding difficulty, addressing the underlying problem may be more helpful than continually changing the bottle.

For more information about reflux and feeding, see Infant Reflux: Feeding, Self-Help and When to Seek Support.

Try when your baby is sleepy

Some babies who resist a bottle when fully alert will accept it when drowsy, just waking or calm.

You may hear this described as dream feeding.

If your baby feeds more comfortably when sleepy, that can provide useful information about what is happening when they are fully alert. It may suggest that your baby's state or the feeding environment is influencing the difficulty.

However, sleepiness should not be used to override clear refusal. Your baby should still be able to pause or stop feeding according to their cues.

Offer smaller amounts more frequently

Some babies find a larger volume overwhelming, particularly if they are already unsettled around feeds.

If your baby is otherwise well, offering smaller amounts more frequently may sometimes feel more manageable.

Responsive feeding means allowing your baby to guide the feed rather than expecting them to finish a predetermined volume. Babies commonly feed little and often and do not necessarily finish every bottle (NHS, n.d.).

If your baby has been given a medically advised minimum intake or feeding schedule, speak to the healthcare professional responsible for their care before making substantial changes.

Look for patterns

If bottle refusal is happening repeatedly, a short feeding diary can help you see patterns that are difficult to notice from individual feeds.

You could record:

• time of feed

• whether your baby was fully awake, sleepy or just waking

• caregiver offering the feed

• location

• bottle and teat used

• position

• approximate amount offered and taken

• coughing, gulping or milk loss

• winding

• vomiting or regurgitation

• bowel movements

• wet nappies

• signs of teething or illness

• anything different about that feed.

The purpose is not to monitor every millilitre anxiously. It is to look for patterns that may help you understand what is making some feeds easier or harder.

Could something have happened during a previous feed?

Sometimes bottle refusal begins after a particularly difficult feeding experience.

This could include:

• a significant coughing or choking episode

• vomiting during a feed

• painful reflux-like symptoms

• milk flowing much faster than your baby could comfortably manage

• difficulty coordinating sucking, swallowing and breathing

• another experience that appeared frightening or uncomfortable.

It is difficult to know exactly what an infant remembers or associates with a previous feed. However, if refusal began after a particularly difficult experience, repeatedly encouraging the baby to take the same bottle may increase distress.

Instead, try to make subsequent feeding experiences calm and predictable.

Offer the bottle without pressure, allow your baby to pause and stop when they communicate that they have had enough.

Supporting a baby who is distressed by the bottle

Repeated pressure can make feeding increasingly tense.

Re-offering the bottle immediately after a clear refusal, repeatedly trying to persuade a baby to continue, or prolonging a distressed feed can turn feeding into a struggle for both of you.

Responsive bottle feeding means watching your baby's cues rather than focusing only on completing a particular volume.

Your baby may communicate that they need a pause by:

• slowing or stopping sucking

• turning their head away

• pushing the teat away

• spilling milk

• splaying their fingers

• becoming tense

• becoming distracted

• showing other signs that they need a break.

These behaviours are communication rather than something that needs to be overcome.

You can find more detail in Paced Bottle Feeding.

If you are trying different approaches, consider changing one variable at a time.

Changing the bottle, teat, flow rate, caregiver, room, position and routine all at once can make it almost impossible to know what has helped.

If bottle feeding remains difficult, an alternative feeding method may sometimes provide another way of meeting your baby's nutritional needs while the difficulty is being explored.

Read Alternative Feeding Methods for more information.

Alternative feeding methods are not a failure of bottle feeding. They are simply different ways of providing milk when a particular method is not currently working well for an individual baby.

A role for skilled, joined-up support

Bottle refusal can involve more than the bottle itself.

A skilled feeding assessment may consider:

• your baby's medical history

• growth and hydration

• feeding history

• feeding cues

• positioning

• bottle and teat

• milk flow

• sucking, swallowing and breathing

• oral function

• discomfort

• the feeding environment

• what happens before, during and after feeds

• and the experience of the caregiver and baby together.

A feeding difficulty may need medical review, feeding support, changes to the way milk is offered, monitoring over time or a combination of approaches.

The purpose of assessment is not necessarily to identify something that needs treating. Sometimes careful assessment provides reassurance that a baby is well and that a period of refusal can be supported conservatively.

If expressing is part of your feeding plan, you may also find Expressing Breast Milk useful.

Moving forward with compassion

A difficult feeding period can make caregivers feel that they need to solve everything immediately.

A useful starting point is to consider:

1. Is my baby well and hydrated?

2. Is there anything that could be causing pain or discomfort?

3. Is there a pattern to when refusal happens?

4. Can I reduce pressure around the feed?

5. Is there one small change I can try rather than changing everything at once?

6. Do I need help assessing what is happening during the feed?

Sometimes a different position, quieter environment, another caregiver, a winding break, a different sensory experience or smaller, more frequent feeds can make feeding easier.

Sometimes there is an underlying medical or feeding difficulty that needs professional assessment.

And sometimes several small factors are contributing at the same time.

Bottle refusal does not mean that you have done something wrong, and it does not necessarily mean that your baby will never take a bottle.

Every feeding journey deserves careful attention to the individual baby, the feeding relationship and the circumstances surrounding the difficulty.

References

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Maxwell, C., Fleming, K.M., Fleming, V. and Porcellato, L. (2020) ‘UK mothers’ experiences of bottle refusal by their breastfed baby’, Maternal & Child Nutrition, 16(4), e13047. doi:10.1111/mcn.13047.

Maxwell, C., Fleming, V. and Porcellato, L. (2023) ‘Why have a bottle when you can have draught? Exploring bottle refusal by breastfed babies’, Maternal & Child Nutrition, 19(2), e13481. doi:10.1111/mcn.13481.

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